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Personal Development Relationships

Why is divorce so common?

nature-love-wallpapers-widescreen-6Because it is available. It is an easy option when two people no longer feel in love. What they don’t realise is their relationship was bound to fail if they expected the other person to complete them and make them happy. That is impossible. Each has to complete themselves, find inner peace and happiness within themselves. Then two whole people can come together and share with each other, supporting each others continual growth. They can share their joy and love as it is over flowing from each.

When couples join from a needy space, a space of I’m lacking something and I hope you will fix it, it doesn’t work. Temporarily it will seem to work, that your prayers have been answered, but it is false illusion. Eventually the rose tinted glasses will fade and you will judge the other person as not good enough, as problematic. When in reality they are fine. You are just projecting your own unfinished business onto them. You feel not good enough, so you project it out and judge them as that too. When you love and accept yourself completely it is easy to love and accept others too.

You don’t judge them as you recognise it is none of your business what the other person does. You don’t control them because you are not needy and your happiness doesn’t depend on what they do. You could walk away easily but you don’t because you enjoy watching the other grow and you don’t take their actions personally. You know what they do is a reflection of their inner workings and if you get triggered it shows you something inside yourself to heal/process. So you see challenge/conflict as a gift that leads you to more wholeness. You are teaching each other about self through your interactions and helping each other to grow. so the relationship and your love spirals upwards, positive growth to infinity, to Source connectedness.

relationship bricksThose that couple from a needy space spiral downwards into dark, murky depths of inner pain. The other doesn’t respond the way they want. They take it personally and take it as confirmation that they are not good enough, worthy or lovable. They blame the other for their pain instead of taking responsibility to heal their wounds. This escalates ultimately into separation and divorce and unfortunately repeating the pattern over and over if each doesn’t learn from their mistakes. Yes, their choices, not just the others choices.

It is up to each of us to take responsibility for our baggage and clear it up. Otherwise we will never have a peaceful journey. Time alone allows the inner reflection and insight, awareness to dawn. It is good to have time being single then you can cling to your true partner – your heavenly father – who loves you just as you are. It is this love, this connection that you have been craving and fearing due to your many false beliefs about God and life.

Life truly can be fun and enjoyable if you heal your wounds and let the light in. Become whole in yourself then you don’t need another. Having someone as your partner is a bonus, not a necessity, and if they go it is okay as you know the next person destined to help you grow further will come when the time is right. You can not miss him/her. It is destined from before you were born. You made an agreement to meet at a certain time in your lives and share the journey together, supporting each other to grow, to know God, self and others as whole and complete.

This is the purpose of relationship, to help us evolve into loving, kind, compassionate beings who honour each other and share love and light with humanity. So be it. Amen.

By Jodi-Anne (12 June 2015).

Further free guidance on healing techniques and self love are available on the Life Insights and Healing from child abuse pages of this website.
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Conscious Evolution Personal Development

What is the purpose of life?

waterfallsLife on Earth is an opportunity for souls to grow and evolve past their current limitations into wholeness with God and the Universe. Each soul starts out with a clean slate and life after life they experience different events to learn from. This helps them evolve into God-likeness, to remember their divine qualities.

We are all born of God and have the knowledge and answers within us. We lose or forget these when we incarnate on Earth and life teaches us this information as we go along. We get to experience and feel it. When in spirit we only know it. There is a powerful difference. One so tangible that souls choose to incarnate to feel it, to know the depths of sadness, grief, despondency and the ecstasy of joy, happiness and bliss.

Earth is the only place that souls can feel these opposites, live in duality. So we keep coming back life after life to learn these opposites and become whole in our knowledge of life’s experiences.

There is no bad luck or karma as such. You agree on what you are to experience and learn and from whom before you incarnate. You make agreements with other souls to harm or help you along the way. It is the same thing really. Even someone who betrays you is really helping you. How could you learn to forgive if there was nothing done to you that was hard to let go of. How could you learn to be kind and caring unless you knew what it felt like to be treated poorly and decided not to do that to others. All of life’s experiences are designed to help you evolve and grow and they do.

Support is always available to help you through the challenging moments. You just have to ask for help and it is there. God, Jesus, the angels and archangels are all by your side waiting to support you when you ask. When times are tough ask for their assistance, ask for clarity as to what you are going through and what you are meant to learn from it. Ask them to take the burden and lighten your load. They can help shift heavy emotions out of your body and field if you are willing to feel them and let them go. Just breathe through such emotions – whether it is fear, grief, anger, shame. Breathe through it. Just witness the emotion and let it flow through you to completion. When you allow emotion to flow it can be released fully. If you hold it in or resist feeling it, it stays stuck inside you.

If you don’t learn a lesson with one person you may create a similar situation with another person. This is not a mistake. Don’t beat yourself up about it. It just shows that the lesson you are mastering is a hard one and you need to learn different aspects of it until you get it. purpose be happyThere truly is celebrations in Heaven as we master our challenges and overcome our pasts, as we open our hearts to love, God, peace and happiness. For these are our natural state which we can abide in most of the time once we have learned not to judge self or others, once we have forgiven self and others and we don’t take the actions of others personally.

Life becomes an entertaining journey of witnessing the evolution occurring within each person and society in general. You are all moving forward rapidly. It is wonderful to see. Trust in the process. Life will bring you the events and experiences that you need for your evolution. You don’t have to make it happen. It is all pre-set and you can’t miss it or mess it up. It all comes to you in divine timing to assist you to awaken to the light and see the glory of life, love, evolution and God. It is all helping you evolve. Your darkest moments lead to the greatest light. They are transformational.

When you are on your knees in pain from loss of a loved one or other tragedy, it is then that you are on the precipice of change. It is then that your ego cracks open to see the possibility of God, to call out for help. You accept that you can’t do it on your own and you call out to God. God answers, gives you strength and courage to get through. Your angels and guides support you as you learn to stand despite your circumstances, as you learn to look within and find your strength.

It is miraculous how the dark turns to light as soon as you flick the switch and light up the room. Most of you just don’t know how to process your emotions quickly and effectively. You have learned to fear them, swallow them, hide them for fear of others teasing you, thinking less of you or rejecting you. When the truth is all humans go through strong emotions and losses throughout life. It may occur at different times, but all experience the gamut of experiences there is to experience. Everyone will go through loss, grief, betrayal, shame and guilt. So why not support each other, accept it as part of life. There is no need to hide it. Heal it instead! Break free of it and enjoy life. You are learning that all emotions and experiences are okay. They are part of the ebb and flow of life on Earth.

You chose to come to Earth to feel and learn what it is like to be in duality. No one forced you to come or sent you bad things. You chose prior to incarnating what you would do and with whom. You chose what experiences you wanted to learn the various lessons you wished to master.

Many of you chose multiple life themes to learn as you were eager to evolve quickly. Sometimes it can feel like too much. Rest assured you will only be given what you can handle. Support is always there you just have to ask. Reach out to others, find the right book, movie or song that gives you insight or relax and sleep. Sleep allows you to go home and access divine guidance while your body is resting. It really is extremely important that you get a good nights sleep. Don’t stay up late wasting time with TV or other distractions.

purpose find giftLife is about the journey of awakening, of coming to know your true self, of clearing out your baggage and emotions so that you can be your authentic self at all times. This frees you to be of service in the unique way that you can because of your unique gifts. Each of us has a purpose to fulfill and it waits underneath our personality challenges until we are ready to step forth and integrate it.

It truly is a wonderful journey. Don’t be stuck in pain. Reach past it to the light. We are here to help. Blessed BE. Amen.

By Jodi-Anne (18 June 2015)
Further free guidance on healing techniques and self love are available on the Life Insights and Healing from child abuse pages of this website.
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Personal Development Self help techniques

You can change your brain! (part 2)

Below is part 2 of the infographic explaining the concepts of neuroplasticity from the Alta Mira Centre. This infographic explains that we can train the brain and rewire it by altering how we think. It shows how mindfulness and meditation can help us create new pathways in the brain. The infographic was created by the Alta Mira Centre – www.altamirarecovery.com.

To see part 1 of the infographic – click here.

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Health Personal Development Self help techniques

You can change your brain! (part 1)

Below is an infographic explaining the concepts of neuroplasticity – that our brains continue to grow and change. They are not hardwired as was previously believed. This infographic explains the latest findings in neuroplasticity and its links to addiction, compulsive behaviours and how to change these. It was created by the Alta Mira Centre – www.altamirarecovery.com. To read the whole article go to: http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/this-nifty-infographic-is-a-great-introduction-to-neuroplasticity

Part One
Image created by Alta Mira Centre – www.altamirarecovery.com.

To view part 2 of the infographic click here.

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Conscious Evolution Healing from child abuse Personal Development

I truly believe that this is true…..

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Jodi-Anne happily living in peace!

Happiness is an inside job!
Happiness is an inside job!

Jodi-Anne started her life full of pain, disappointment and shame. She felt unloved and unwanted by her parents and worked hard to succeed and prove she was worth loving. She hoped to get noticed and loved, but found that she rejected any kindness for lack of trusting it was real. She was wounded and armoured living from the mind and closing her heart so as not to feel the pain within or experience any more loss and disappointment.

She achieved many impressive promotions in her career and multiple qualifications only to realise that these did not make her happy or healthy. She realised in time that she hated her life and fell in and out of depression for many years. She awoke to God and the greater evolutionary journey in her mid 20’s. Since then she has been focused on releasing her emotional pain and baggage to return to a state of harmony and peace. She has used many different healing modalities and is trained in those she found most beneficial – Psych-K, Reiki, Light Therapy.

In an unexpected turn of events Jodi-Anne found herself returning to the role she first commenced her career with. She had loved that role and sang through each day enjoying being of service to the community as an Environmental Health Officer. She is currently reliving this experience and happy living simply and performing a job she enjoys and enjoying her life outside of work.

For the first time ever she has no desire to achieve, advance, fix, heal or change herself or anyone else for that matter. She finally has peace inside and is content being in that feeling and opening to greater balance in her life with social activities, close heart-focused friends and a love for life.

She is not seeing clients or offering healing services at this stage. This is a time of celebrating the peace within and honouring self. Jodi-Anne will from time to time post on this website. She will not however be on here regularly so do not be surprised if she does not answer emails or queries quickly. She is finally living and loving her life.

It is her hope that all beings find this peace and become that in the world, for then we truly will have peace on Earth. Much love to all, Jodi-Anne x

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Parenting Personal Development Uncategorized

Why many relationships fail – lack of energetic linkage

I love the Voice Dialogue work of Hal and Sidra Stone. In this short video they are explaining how many relationships end when the partners have not maintained ‘energetic linkage’ with each other. At the start of a relationship we feel ‘connected’ very strongly and it is that connection that feeds the relationship and keeps it strong.

If either partner moves the majority of their energetic focus elsewhere the connection withers and eventually dies. This happens quite commonly when one partner may get focused more on work or a hobby. The majority of their attention is focused on that and not on the relationship, so the partners start to feel less close. Over time they drift apart until they no longer feel any connection with each other.  It is very sad when this happens.

There does not necessarily need to be conflict, it is just a loss of connection and closeness. A common time when this occurs is with the birth of the first child. The wife may focus the majority of her attention on the child and the husband can feel left out. Not understanding why he feels sad or alone he may focus his time and energy on his work, his car, a hobby e.g. the Ipad / computer or start an affair to get the emotional connection from another source.

Sadly many people don’t talk about the growing void in the relationship, the feeling of loss or disconnection. Perhaps, they don’t want to risk acknowledging their vulnerability or they may try to do so but feel unheard. They then shut down further, turning their focus elsewhere. It is common for a woman to focus her energy and time on the kids or with her girlfriends. These provide her with the nourishment she had been missing, but it reinforces the energetic connection with them and not the partner. If the relationship is to survive the main energetic connection needs to be with the partner.

It doesn’t take a lot of time or effort to keep your energetic linkage strong – just take a few minutes each day to connect emotionally, to look into each others’ eyes and really be present with each other. Talk from the heart sharing what you are going through. Once a week or so go out and do something together that you both enjoy. The more you nurture the connection the stronger it will be. Even just holding the intent for their to be a strong connection helps – it reverberates out and the other will feel it energetically.

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Personal Development Self help techniques Uncategorized

Decision making

Sometimes it can be challenging to make a decision. Here are some helpful concepts from Susan Jeffer’s fabulous book ‘Feal the Fear and do it anyway’. Below is a table you can use to help you think through the implications of each action you are considering.

If I choose this course of action
The self
Gains for self Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:
Losses for self Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:
Significant others
Gains for significant others Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:
Losses for significant others Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:
Life balance
Gains for life balance Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:
Losses for life balance Acceptable to me because: Not acceptable to me because:

I find the below diagrams and summaries useful in reminding me that there is no wrong action to take. If we don’t like the results we get we can just change course. It is also helpful to realise that not taking action is a decision too! One that we often make over and over while we worry and procrastinate.

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Healing from child abuse Personal Development

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Accessing your inner heart – meditation

Connecting to your heart is the greatest gift you can give yourself and the greatest challenge, for to feel the joy of the heart you first have to feel all its pain and burden buried from the past. Peeling these layers off leads you back to joy, happiness, peace and love – eternal love, feelings of aliveness and contentment – the ability to just BE.

Accessing the heart is easy when we feel courageous enough to go there. Just tune in to it, set your focus, your intention on your heart, close your eyes and imagine entering inside your heart space. Here you will be met by whatever you most need to feel and release. It may be sadness, grief, anger or rage. It may be a feeling of numbness, loneliness and isolation. It may be fear or terror. Breathe through it all.

Your heart space may appear dark – turn on a light, open the curtains, strike a match – whatever feels right to you and see what you can see. Set about cleaning the space, removing clutter, dust and cobwebs and decorating it into a cosy, warm, inviting space. This is how you start to re-enliven your heart space. It tells your heart you are willing to listen, to see and feel what needs to be felt. You are willing to connect and come home to your true self.

Often when I do this exercise, I find younger versions of myself hidden away in caves or corners, in the dark, cold and wet. These parts split off when I was younger due to their being too much emotional pain, fear or loss. When I find these parts I automatically start crying tears of relief. I scoop the younger me up and bring them into my heart space. I hug them, tell them they are loved and safe now, that they never have to be alone again. I become the loving parent to that part of myself. After they have been bathed, fed and clothed we sit in my heart space and talk and play, then they rest knowing they are finally home. It is a beautiful feeling.

While this appears symbolic to the mind, it is real to the body. The body stored the pain, the terror and loss. It is locked away in our cells as cellular memory and it needs to be released for us to be fully healthy and vital. So each time you do this process and you free another part of your self you truly are healing and coming back to a state of fullness, innocence and peace. Well worth the effort!

Let your imagination guide you and take you where you need to go. You may see bats fly out of a hidden space or ice melting symbolically showing frozen emotions are thawing. It all has meaning! If you are strongly mind-oriented you may find this difficult to do. Keep doing it and you will open up more and more. Even if all you see / feel is darkness and silence sit with it, breathe and see what happens, what you feel. If your mind comes in saying this is pointless or stupid, just thank it for trying to protect you. Your mind has helped you avoid the pain for many years, it becomes automatic and so it will feel uncomfortable changing that pattern and choosing to feel. Persevere and one day you may find rainbows and treasure in your heart space, joy and celebration as you settle in to your true home.

Blessed BE, Jodi-Anne