In this section we explore healing from child abuse and becoming a healthy, fully functioning adult. Those of us who suffer painful beginnings in life have to spend many years unravelling the knots we’ve been tied up into. We have to loosen these, drop the armour, shed the fear, grief, despair and rage, to access the peace and love that was our true birth right. Finding peace is possible after abuse. It just takes time as all the buried emotions and trauma need to be relived, felt and released from the body.
If it was too painful at the time of the events we escape through leaving our body, going somewhere else in our minds or a myriad of other distraction techniques. When we do this our body stores the trauma and waits till we’re ready to feel and release it. It’s buried in our cells, locked in our joints and muscles – it is the rigidity, the frozen energy that keeps us feeling stuck in fight or flight. It cannot be avoided. It has to be felt and released. In this section of the blog/website we discuss ways to do this, ways to cope during the painful stages of the healing journey and how to move through them to find peace and happiness.
Once you clean your house – your body – of the past, you can let the light shine in fully. You can see the beauty that was always there, hidden under the dust, cobwebs and shadows. Now we get to redecorate, to add bright colours and celebrate. This is the time of ecstatic joy and gratitude, gratitude for making it through, for the new feelings of bliss and oneness, for the lessons learnt, wisdom gained and love found. It’s my honour to provide insight and support to help people along this path and into their beautiful hearts.
Introduction to child abuse and its impacts
- What is child abuse and how common is it?
- Impacts of child abuse
- Childhood trauma leads to brains wired for fear
- Impacts of lack of nurturing and stress on the brain
- Why does child abuse occur?
Nadine Burke Harris explores the health impacts of child abuse and how if it is not resolved it can have serious detrimental impacts throughout your whole life, making you more susceptible to certain illnesses and problems (16:02 mins)
Lissa Rankin explores the health impacts of loneliness and isolation, showing that it has serious consequences on our health (19:37 mins).
Healing from child abuse
- Stages of healing from child abuse
- How do we heal from child abuse?
- How to heal after childhood sexual abuse? (part one)
- Healing from childhood sexual abuse (part two)
- Healing from childhood sexual abuse (part three)
- How to heal from emotional abuse?
- Free manuals on healing from child abuse
- Personal bill of rights
- Overview of techniques for emotional release
- Art therapy as a tool for healing
- When you have hit rock bottom here is what to do
- What is the role of the inner child?
- How to love your wounded child back to love and innocence
- Why is the urge to fix others so strong?
- How to overcome disappointment with your life?
- How to forgive those who hurt you?
- What does it mean to be free from the past?
- How to stop expecting the worst to occur?
- How to stop making yourself wrong?
- Addctions – why they occur and how to resolve them
- Overcoming depression – lifestyle changes that significantly reduce depression
Self recovery program – Melanie Tonia Evans’ Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) is a powerful and affordable program containing healing meditations that lift off trauma and pain from your body. Listen to them in the safety of your own home and heal your past. Even if you didn’t suffer in a narcissistic relationship, the meditations are extremely beneficial for healing childhood abuse and trauma from any other events throughout your life. I thoroughly recommend her program and intend to create my own version specific to healing from child abuse in future.
Recovery from child abuse is possible – survivors talk about their recovery experiences and their finding freedom from the past (11:42mins)
When you have hit rock bottom here is what to do – Here is a short video, 11:22 mins, of Jessica Ortner (from The Tapping Solution) interviewing Sonia Ricotti (author of the book Unsinkable). It is a fabulous summary of what to do when you feel like you have hit rock bottom and you are stuck. Sonia reminds us that fighting ‘what is’ leads to negative emotions and keeps us caught in our story, our interpretation and judgement of the events. Instead she encourages us to accept ‘what is’ and ‘surrender’. When you do this you allow yourself to feel and release any emotions around the situation. This creates more space inside you, which enables peace and clarity. From here you can start to see what actions you could take to help yourself move forward.
In 2011 Jodi-Anne published a book about her healing journey. She explained the process of healing from child abuse using examples from throughout her life. There are many stages to work through and much that has to be learned so that you can release conditioning, create effective boundaries, and have healthy relationships with yourself and others. It takes time and effort to change negative self beliefs and release buried emotions and trauma. Doing this helps your body to transition from fight or flight into peace and harmony. The book contains her story but also advice on self help techniques you can use to support yourself on your journey. It also contains appendices showing how she used art and dream analysis as healing tools. Jodi-Anne recommends these techniques to all as they are very powerful. The book can be purchased online as an e-book or a hard-copy book. For more information and to purchase it click here. It is her hope that this book helps others to progress more quickly along their healing journey, that through her sharing they understand the process and feel inspired to take action. You truly can break free of the past. It is possible and it is so worth it!